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Hi DD!
Sorry about the late reply, as you know I was back in Canada and needed some time to recover from the trip.
I’m so sorry to hear about what happened with the house. It can be really hard to find a nice pre-loved home so your frustration is completely understandable. I sincerely hope something nicer comes along for you and your family. Sometimes these things happen for a reason. I’m really glad we missed out on the land we were initially hoping to get because although it’s more convenient, the land we ended up buying is better in so many other ways!
Continue to keep us updated on the search!
Thanks for sharing the other side of “to post or not to post”, Savvy!
There are indeed two sides to this topic, and as Savvy mentioned, if you’re not making your child “perform for social media” or getting some sort of financial reward for sharing your child’s face online, or if you don’t have a public persona that might make your child a target of someone, then there may not be a problem with it at all. It all comes down to what you feel is best for your child.
Thanks for sharing your personal experience with these services, Savvy! Very helpful.
Hi midorisour!
Thanks for joining the forum and posting a question. I’m sorry for the late response, I hope it’s not too late.
Usually doctors prescribe fever-reducing medicine, and for a baby that’s 2 months old, I would recommend going to a doctor first just to be safe. You can also buy Bufferin medication from any drug store, which is safe for babies 3 months and up:
https://www.bufferin.net/products/kids-cold.htm
There’s an orange one with ねつ on it, which should help reduce a fever.
As for first aid, I believe you’ll need to make one on your own but regarding something like Neosporin, you can use マキロンs sparingly. It comes in both a liquid and an ointment.
If you want some ideas as to what to put in your first aid kit, I think my post below on disaster kits may be helpful:
Hi PanchikoWizard!
Thanks for joining the forum and introducing yourself. I hope that it’s helpful and feel free to ask any questions you have, I always try to boost questions on my Twitter as well. There are a few single parents as well as ones without a Japanese spouse, so I think they’ll be more than willing to help out and connect.
I also hope your TTC journey is successful!
Personally, I don’t want to share photos of my daughter because I don’t think it’s fair to share her photos when she’s not old enough to give consent.
There’s also the issue of privacy and not knowing who is looking at your child’s photos and what they’re doing with them. There are some cases where men are creeping on three-year-olds whose parents post their photos online and saving those photos (or even photoshopping ones where kids are doing something innocent like eating a hotdog…). It’s awful what some sick-minded people do.
I don’t mean to fearmonger, of course, but these are key reasons why I will never share my daughter’s face online publically unless she allows me to. (Even then I don’t know if I will…)
This is something I am very worried about, and I think it’s great that you have the opportunity to move to the UK so they have a better environment. It’s something I might consider as well, as it would only be for six years. (My husband can’t really come with us to Canada, though, due to his work.)
I want to think things will get better when my daughter is older but Japan has a LOT of work to do in terms of gender equality.
Yeah, with three under three, co-sleeping in two double futons sounds like a must! I’m happy to hear that the twins are (finally) no longer coming to your bed. So… 4 more years to go for me? Maybe more since A doesn’t have a little companion in her room.
I’ve heard of plenty of working parents using cleaners every so often! It’s something I would consider if I go back to work full-time. If you can afford it and if using a cleaner means you can spend more time with your family, then absolutely go for it!
No apologies for late responses! I like to think on this forum there is never such a thing as a late response, especially as we’re busy parents. (I don’t like the current culture to immediately respond to everything, anyway!)
I felt, and still feel, very guilty sometimes about bringing my daughter into the world. Was it selfish? Look at climate change – will she, and our world, be okay ten years from now? But I also agree about worrying but not living in fear. The only thing we can do is be amazing parents, as that’s something we can control.
Juku, yes, I want to avoid that as well! I want my kid to have free time to explore her hobbies and interests instead of being trained to become a corporate drone. And I also want to teach my daughter self-defense. My husband is against judo because apparently your ears can get damaged from the impact…? So I suppose karate it is!
Ah, that sounds like the situation with my daughter, too (up until 2.5 years old when we moved). Around this time she also started climbing out of her crib, so we changed it into a bed, which made it easy for her to just run out of her room and into ours whenever she woke up at night.
We did both methods (waiting and CIO). Now it’s a mix of two. Sometimes crying helps her get tired so when we come back to the room she’ll be (finally) sleepy enough not to notice when we leave the room.
I thought it would be weird, too, and was (still am?) nervous about asking other parents to hang out. But one mom approached me the other day at my daughter’s ichijihoiku. I had never met her before as I’ve only recently started using it but she was super friendly and we exchanged LINE and are having a playdate on Monday! What led to the LINE exchange was me saying, “I could talk to you all day!” (we have a lot in common and she speaks fluent English) and she asked for my LINE.
But I think it would be harder for this to happen in Japanese… But not impossible! (I am also very stumbly in Japanese because I don’t use it often anymore, I say something and a moment later I’m like, “Wait, that’s not the right word/grammatically correct/fml”.)
I’m going to try to ask another mom in Japanese to hang out, so I’ll report back if it worked!
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I have many thoughts about America but I am also not American so… I feel for you guys. I’m also so happy you had the opportunity and insight to come to Japan and have the family you deserve. Japan isn’t perfect (what country is?) but it’s sure better than some other countries.
My one thought is that I hope I will raise a kid who will be a good person and, in doing so, offset the bad of the world, if that makes sense? It’s hard to explain ahah ^_^;;
This makes total sense! We need more good people in the world, and that starts with good parents like you!
It’s weird how people think it’s okay to just touch a stranger’s child. I was holding a friend’s baby the other day and a fellow foreigner that neither of us knew came up to me and started holding the baby’s hand. And then she wanted me to let her hold the baby?! Like sorry lady, I don’t know you, this is clearly not my baby, and I’m holding this 4-month-old baby for the first time after knowing the mom for almost three years?!
depending on where you live there’s never been a “good” time to have a kid, I guess
This is very true. There’s always going to be some kind of problem, no generation is without it. I suppose we just look at our parents’ generation and think everything was better when in reality, it had its issues.
But things like global warming seem inescapable and getting increasingly worse. What will summers be like ten years from now? Ten years ago it wasn’t nearly this bad! How will our kids get to school? Will the schools make them go outside in this heat or refuse to use aircon? What about salaries? Will Japan continue to pay shit wages despite rising costs? I know worrying about this isn’t productive but I can’t help it. And I feel helpless. What can I do, what can we do, to improve these situations? (Well, I guess in terms of work I will insist my daughter works for a gaishikei, haha.)
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