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So. It’s final. The other new buyer had their loan approved and the owner took them. Oh well. We really liked this place but it wasn’t meant to be. I wish we could find land and build a place like you but I don’t know of we are able. I’m gonna study your blog about the home search again to weigh options of new, used, used and needs renovations or buying property and building. Definitely a learning process.
my mother in law said the safe as you, things happen for a reason. I’ll keep you updated! It’s all good! Keep looking! Hope everyone is well and healthy!!!
So all this was for nothing maybe. We were set to sign tomorrow. The owner got an offer for the original price and put us on hold. I’m not ready interested in doing business with them anymore though. We are bank approved. Negotiations were completed. Signing was basically all that’s left. Back to square one. Oh well.
Ughhh. So e we are getting ready to sign on Monday. My wife told her parents about it. They were really negative saying how it will be too expensive ti maintain and taxes will be too much. So now, there is a lot of hesitant by my wife. There is a tax after like 6 months that is quite a bit and she is now second guessing. Basically, her parents hope that she will eventually move back to there hometown and take their house so I think they are discouraging her, but there is nothing I can say besides if you want it, let’s get it! If you don’t, we can wait. It is about a 20 minute walk from current station, a smaller yard, but big enough to enjoy, spacious, but 42 years old. I think it is nice and probably the best we will find for the location and price. I don’t know.
The gender equality or lack thereof is a major issue in Japan. Self defense is a great idea and something I will encourage our daughter as well. With daily inequalities she will undoubtably face, I’m really unsure how to prepare her besides raising her to be strong and not stand for less equal. I want to think so too and will do everything I can to help.
I really appreciate what was said and the advice given. Since that day, I’ve better positioned myself with the surroundings so I can get between easier. I’m not going to hesitate next time and am not going to be shy about saying that’s close enough haha. Ours is still very young and needs our protection so I need to better remember that, regardless of the location.
I’m really grateful for everyone. Thank you!
Thank you for the advice! I’ve been saying good morning to everyone since this post. I wish we could set a play date but none have gotten that friendly but I do understand. A park day works be so fun!! I think we are in similar hoikuen situations Pippa, so I should take the mindset like you
Ours is now 18 months. She has used a crib in her own room since she came home. She sorties there about 95% with the 5% being when she isn’t feeling well. Then in our bed, which like Kay, she kicks out hits us all night in her sleep.
one thing we do that I’m not sure is normal or not, we stay in her room with her until she falls asleep or she will cry. I’m not sure if that’s the “right” approach but if she cries, e we go in after about a minute. Do you wait? Let them cry?
My wife and I had this conversation. I have thought deeply about this, probably too much.
yes, I do worry about the future, globally. I worry about resources, climate change, war, and many other issues. I said to my wife, I feel uncomfortable bringing a child into this world because I don’t want them to suffer or live in distress.
In terms of Japan verses other, I get worried a lot about her being considered not Japanese or not treated equally. But, I hope to just teach her to be her, don’t let anyone undervalue her based on gender or race, and as it was said before, be a good person. Be a good person is by far most important.
So yes, I do worry but if we can do our jobs off teaching right from wrong, we can help make things better, possibly. I worry but won’t live in fear.
regarding Japan vs home country. Japan, 100%. I’m American and the gun violence, health care, educational issues, diversity, is overwhelming and living there is the last place I’d decide to reside. In Japan, it’s safer with better health care. I don’t care for the juku life and will do my best to avoid that if she doesn’t want it. Gender equality here is a major issue, but I hope, I hope, I can help her to be strong and don’t be shortchanged, and how to protect herself. I think every country has its issues, Japan has less glaring ones though.
sorry for the late response, I’ve been in deep thought about this question.
She did do a bye bye! That’s when I switched from weird to WTF. For the next hour or two I was thinking it was possibly a cultural misunderstanding as she was neither Japanese or American. But in the end, to me it’s not ok.
so directly saying don’t touch it’s ok? I’ve always wondered, my wife had said that people have openly tried to touch her face but I’ve not really encountered this, luckily. In the future, I won’t be so naive and more ready to say something directly. I hope I don’t see the mom again at the park!
thank you for your feedback!
Good luck! IMO, it worked as she was comfortable from the start! We have a weekly breakfast call where we all talk. Technology really has helped out!
I was stunned and after about 30 seconds I reached and took her back. As a parent who is learning daily, this was a learning experience. I think I am going to try and sprays place myself between strangers and my daughter. It was a weird experience for sure.
So she has gotten comfy with breakfast!! Oatmeal, eggs (omelette style cooked in a bag in the microwave), toast, cereal (corn flakes) have all worked well! Fruit is something she loves too!! Also soups have done well too!! It took a couple of tries for some of them to be acceptable for her, but eventually she took to them well!
Pilaf,
I apologize for not responding. Thank you for your thoughts! What to say is always the difficult question. Correcting normally gets lost. When I’ve spoke to my wife about it, she says that hafu isn’t meant to be hurtful, it’s just the natural label for mixed but we talked and IMO all people are mixed so the label is unnecessary. I’m really grateful for your thoughts.
Thank you so much for the advice! We have been trying different things and they have started to grow on her. We found a baby cereal at HAC that she likes. We also made little baby sandwiches with the fruit/veggie squeeze things. Also a tofu egg omelet. All of which she seemed to like but I think the main issue is swallowing them at times. She kris them in her mouth well and seems to enjoy but sometimes will just spit them out a minute later.
i really appreciate the advice!!! Sometimes we are just in a rush to get to work/her to nursery, so maybe I try to rush her eating, which isn’t good for her. On weekends, we eat together and that does seem to help her.
Thank you for your perspective! I hear how big her eyes are (which I don’t really think they are but whatever) and all different comments too. I try to tell people she’s not a gaijin but then they just label her as hafu which I equally dislike and try to say she is Japanese but get a look of confusion.
