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I am a singe parent and I use help. I need the help. Working parents need the help. Even stay-at-home parents need help too!
You can even get help to pick up/drop off kids at daycare. Get a babysitter. Get all the help you need.
Currently, I use our city’s “support for single parent households” program, where they dispatch helpers to your house at most 12x a month (that works out to 3x a week, 2 hours each time), and subsidize the amount you pay depending on your income.
Before I knew about this program, I used the “family support” service, check if your city hall has it. You still pay cheaper than the usual housekeeping service would cost. They don’t really clean though, their main help was drop off/pick up from daycare.
I have also seen various housekeeping services being advertised for 5,000 or so for two hours, or maybe more. Still, you could use them at least once a week.
Some people don’t want strangers coming into their house, touching their things, cleaning differently, etc. But when you have kids, you don’t have the luxury to nitpick (my opinion). Also, after you cultivate a relationship with your helpers, it will get easier.
Wish you the best in convincing your partner about the help!
Kay, I totally understand where you’re coming from. I have heard of weirdos downloading strangers’ kids’ photos and who knows what they do with them.
On the other hand, the cat is out of the bag for me. I started posting a long time ago when social media was seemingly innocuous and not-so-public. I am posting much less though, especially with my older son who doesn’t want to be in photos anymore. If I need to share the pictures with my family/friends, I send them privately.
I don’t think that I am putting my children directly in danger by posting their photos. I don’t share the current location, and if I do tag the location it is long after we have left it. I post so that I can have an online archive of our lives and memories. I have no idea where all the photos I have been taking up to now have ended up, they’re scattered in hard disks, various clouds, old computers… but with FB/Instagram, I have a nicely curated timeline of happy memories (of course we only post the good ones!)
I can see from both sides: choosing to post or not. What I am uncomfortable with is excessive sharing, exploiting children for profit (or attention), making children perform for social media.. basically the extreme end of oversharing.
